I mentioned before that some of our dates this year have been stay at home date nights. I was a little skeptical about doing this, but budget and time constraints meant that it was stay at home or nothing. It turns out that thanks to being serious about intentionally setting aside that time and starting it right when both kids went down to bed, they were some of our best date nights this year. To finish out the year I’m hoping to get a date night out and we are already planning a date night in. With the holiday hustle and bustle, I thought some of my readers might d some suggestions for their own stay at home date nights themed around some favorite holiday films. Also heads up- potential spoiler alert for any of the following movies so scroll past any you might not have seen… or just accept that they are worth watching anyway… plus, they’ve all been out a while y’all so no guilt here…
1. Jingle All the Way: This is a movie people either love or hate. My husband and I happen to love it. The theme of presents vs. presence is so good and it just makes me laugh every single time.
Snacks: This date night absolutely requires some cookies so you can lay claim to them by screaming “THOSE ARE MY COOKIES!” and maybe pair them with Ted’s hot chocolate
*Must quote line: aside from the one above, “It’s Turbo Time!” or a “Most Wonderful Time of the Year” singalong…
*Post-Movie ideas: Challenge each other to see who can name all Santa’s reindeer the fastest, Take a moment to be thankful that your neighbors aren’t as creepy as Ted… or if they are maybe take a moment to think about moving…
*Discussion: ask each other about your favorite gift you’ve ever been surprised with on Christmas or else the craziest thing you’ve ever put on a Christmas list!
*Snacks: Try to create something from the four major elf food groups: candy, candy canes, candy corn, and syrup… preferably not over spaghetti… cookies from the Keebler company would not be amiss either… and don’t forget to have the word’s best cup of coffee!
*Must quote line: “I’m in love I’m in love and I don’t care who knows it!”
*Post-Movie ideas: Have an etch a sketch contest for who can make the fanciest drawing in a limited time. If you make this movie night a double date you could play a guessing game with etch a sketches instead! If you live in a place where it snows then snowball fights are a must. If you live in a place where it is as hot as Phoenix… try to channel your inner Miles Finch and create storyboards for a new holiday children’s book! You can do this together or work on them separately and share your ideas, hopefully some laughter will ensue and maybe you’ll even stumble upon your next couples project!
*Discussion: The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear… what are your favorite Christmas songs and why?
3. The Holiday
*Snacks: Sushi! and definitely not at the same time but later in the night a hot chocolate bar is a must… with at least five marshmallows each… and bonus points if your date agrees to do Mr. Napkinface
*Must quote line: “I used only the good notes.” “Gumption” and “I’m in love with you. I apologize for the blunt delivery, but as problematic as this fact may be, I’m in love… with YOU”
*Post-Movie ideas: Improvise theme songs for each other. “Scroodleedoo!” or get on airbnb and imagine where you’d like to escape on holiday.
*Discussion: Talk about your perfect holiday, reminisce about your own “meet cute”, or commiserate over a time you had to work through long distance.
*It’s a Wonderful Life
*Snacks: I think you have to go with Angelfood cake in honor of Clarence. You can also have some mulled wine… or a martini or two in honor of the Martini family…
*Must quote line: “What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down.” and of course, “Remember no man is a failure who has friends…”
*Post-Movie ideas: Go for a walk if you don’t have kids tucked in bed. If you do, just go outside and gaze at the stars and the moon. OR think about how Mary dreams the Bailey house into becoming a beautiful home even before they own it and do a little daydreaming for your own home or the home you wish to own in the future.
*Discussion: This is a great movie to get your talking about your blessings and also the angels in your life- the friends and family who helped you through tough situations and dark times.
*Snacks: Pie. I mean, you can be really true to the movie and make sure it’s Banoffee pie but I’ll pass on that… alternatively chocolate biscuits. For something more savory you can go for lobster ravioli in honor of the lobsters present at the birth of Jesus…
*Must quote line: “I HATE Uncle Jaime!” or you know… any of the number of actual lovey dove lines. Having signs confessing your love wouldn’t be bad either…
*Post-Movie ideas: Dance party to All I Want for Christmas is You. Have a contest to see who has the better British accent.
*Discussion: Craziest thing you’ve done for someone you had a crush on? Favorite romantic gesture you’ve done for each other? What instrument would you want your partner to woo you with?
*Your personal tradition-everyone has their favorite “Holiday movie” that isn’t technically a popular or traditional holiday movie but has become one because you watch it each year between Thanksgiving and New Year’s. For some it’s more of a holiday special than a movie- I had a friend in college obsessed with Andy Williams and he couldn’t be happier than watching that Christmas special. For other families I know it’s Star Wars, for us this is Nicholas Nickelby. No, not the actual movie that came out in 2002, but the recorded stage performance of the 1980s Royal Shakespeare Company production. I have memories of this playing during Thanksgiving prep at my dad’s house and since I happened to marry a fellow theatre nerd we’ve carried the tradition on… it’s 8 hours of brilliance (yeah, I know that kind of marathoning is not for many people) and while we used to try and attempt it all in a day or two, we now take it over a week or so… we call it a win if we finish by Christmas
*Snacks: Thanksgiving leftovers, tea, your favorite alcoholic beverage, popcorn with hot sauce… anything that is unique to you and your beloved.
*Must quote line: Obviously different for everyone but here’s my favorites from Nickleby- “You are my home” “My heart is so full, I cannot tell how full it is”
*Post-Movie ideas: Decorate for Christmas! the Holiday season now feels officially in full swing.
*Discussion: What traditions you want to continue to cultivate. The things in your favorite movie you forgot about or noticed about a little detail for the first time. If you have children maybe discuss the top traditions you hope your kids will pass on to their kids one day.
I obviously couldn’t get to every movie in this post, so I’d love to hear about your favorite holiday films or your favorite stay at home date night ideas during this time of year. Or if you’ve thrown a party for friends or special time with your kids centered around a favorite film.